Sister rescinds her RSVP to her brother's wedding after Bridezilla roasts her at her 'exclusive' bachelorette party: '[She] is spreading lies'

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    AITA for refusing to go to my brothers wedding after finding out my future SIL trashtalked me at her bachelorette party?
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    I feel like I'm going crazy right now and I could really use some advice. So, I (28F) have always been pretty close to my brother, Mark (32M). We're not like best friends or anything, but we've always had a good relationship. When he met Sarah (30F), I was genuinely
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    happy for him. She seemed nice enough, and we got along okay, or so I thought. A couple weeks ago, Sarah had her bachelorette party. I wasn't invited, which hurt a bit, but I figured maybe it was just close friends or whatever. I didn't think too much of it at the time. But
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    then, a friend of mine who was at the party called me up a few days ago, sounding really awkward. She told me she needed to tell me something, but she didn't. know how I'd take it. Apparently, at the bachelorette, Sarah got
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    pretty drunk and started talking major trash about me. She called me a " and even claimed I was having an affair with my married neighbor. She said I'm always flirting with him and that I'd "spread my legs for anyone." The other girls
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    were laughing and agreeing with her, and no one said anything to stop it. I was honestly shocked. First off, I'm NOT having an affair with my neighbor. He's just a friendly guy, and we chat sometimes, but nothing more. And to hear Sarah say
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    such disgusting things about me behind my back, especially when I thought we were on good terms... it hurt, a lot. I confronted Mark about it, hoping he'd understand where I'm coming from, but he was so dismissive. He
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    said Sarah was just drunk and didn't mean it, and that I'm overreacting. He even suggested maybe my friend misheard or was exaggerating. But I trust my friend, and the way she told me, it seemed like Sarah really believed what she was saying.
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    I told Mark I wasn't sure I could go to the wedding after hearing all that. He got super mad and accused me of making everything about myself, saying I should just it up and support him on his big day. He thinks I should just let it go for the sake of keeping the peace in the family.
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    But I feel so hurt and humiliated. I don't know how I can stand there and celebrate when the bride thinks I'm this awful person and is spreading lies that could ruin my reputation. I'm seriously considering not going to the wedding at all.
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    So, AITA for thinking about skipping my brother's wedding after finding out what Sarah said about me? Or am I being too sensitive and should just go to keep the family peace?
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    Equal-Winner7370 23h ago . I would nope right out. Group chat to family - "After the horrible and degrading remarks made by my future SIL's at her bachelorette it is best if I not attend her wedding. Additionally, so there is no misunderstanding as to the why, I am not a 'Wh re' nor 'Having an affair with my neighbor' nor'
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    Opening my legs for everybody' as she spent the evening shouting to everyone. Drunk or not this level of disrespect and appalling slander is unconscionable. I do not know a single person who would willingly spend time with anyone who said such things about them. So don't expect me to do so.
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    Far_Prior1058 · 1d ago If you go you should take the neighbor. NTA
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    BFab11 1d ago NTA. I will never understand how choosing not to attend a function is "making it about you." It's their wedding, it's literally about them, and they can get married whether you're there or not. And yes, she was drunk, which means her filter wasn't working. She thinks all of those things, but usually has enough sense to not say them out loud.
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    Accepting cruelty and mistreatment for the sake of keeping the peace is what allows . It's to get away with bad behavior, because people don't want to rock the boat. The boat is rocked, her drunken swaying did that.
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    Any-Expression2246 • 1d ago Yeah, time to go low contact and don't interact unless needed. She'll eventually start badmouthing you to your brother as well. Maybe he'll come to his senses then.
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    UnpleasantGremlin • 1d ago Yea Sarah can right off, and sounds like you need to just throw your brother out with her. NTA. Don't make it about you, just don't engage with either of them anymore. How can it be about you when you've removed yourself from he situation? If your brother tries to MAKE it about you after that, that's his problem.
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    prinkyfall • 1d ago NTA. Wow, talk about a betrayal cocktail with a splash of drama! It's one thing for a few harmless jokes at a bachelorette party, but a full- on character assassination is quite another. It's understandable that you'd feel hurt and not want to attend a wedding where the bride has spread such hurtful rumors about you. A wedding should be about celebrating love and unity, not dodging daggers thrown by the bride!
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    Used_Mark_7911 • 1d ago Tell your brother you need to have a sit-down conversation with him and Sarah together where she will have to opportunity to explain her words and actions. Write down what she said at the party and walk through it with them.
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    Ok Stable7501 • 1d ago You can attend his next wedding. NTA ✩ 40 Reply lavinialloyd 1d ago NTA. I don't like how your brother excused that behaviour either! Personally I'd go to the wedding, enjoy yourself, but leave no gift.

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